Whether you are a future or an existing parent, we always wonder how effective of a job we are doing? Are we bringing up the leaders of tomorrow?  will my child live a happy life?  will they go down the wrong path? will they impact this world in a positive way?

How can we protect our children in this negative and dangerous world that we live in?  First and for most we need to change the way we look at this world and the people in it. Than and only than will the world that we look at will change for the better.

There is more than enough goodness in this world to over power the negative.

The only true way to protect our children in the real world is to teach them how to protect themselves. How to protect their minds and values.

I asked a great friend and colleague of mine if she can share some insight when it comes to raising balanced happy children.

I did not ask Anita her opinion because she is a phenomenal counselor and coach.  More so, if anyone has had the pleasure of meeting her two daughters, they understand why the world needs to know what her secrets are in raising happy balanced children.

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ANITA SINGH:

I am honored to shared my thoughts with Fred’s readers.

With so much to say “where do I begin?”.  The hard part will be to keep it short as there is so much to share.

I’ve tried to view my honor as a mother as a journey to not only teach and guide my daughters (aged 8 and 6) as children but to also learn from them and be be guided by them.

No love can be greater than what we as parents feel for our children. So many times we view our role as parents as having the upperhand or “control” of our child, their well being, physically growth, emotionally, academically, spiritually.

Listen to their innocence: We forget at times to simply just listen to their innocent ideas. Its that innocence that can keep us guided and on track to what is “good” and what truely “matters” to them.

Respect them: By showing them that we respect their ideas we instill a confidence, respect and security in them. Then they will have the confidence to truly feel and believe that this time spent together really matters.

Get to their level: The simplest things are all that matters.  At least once a day, take the time to look into your child’s eyes at their level when they speak to us.

When fred asked me to share, I should have thought “where do I end….”

Anita Singh, BSW, RSW.

Social worker, life-relationship and parent coach.

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The question I ask you as parents is:

If all you did different, consistently, with your children are the 3 above points would you create a stronger bond with them?

All you parents out there, we are all open to more advice of what has worked for you.

If we are to teach real peace in this world,

and if we are to carry a real war against war,

we shall have to begin with the children.

Mahatma Ghandhi

Fred Sarkari

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