I was taking a break having a coffee and reading a book at Good Earth in beautiful Kelowna.
That is where I saw a sight that put a tear in my eye.
A mother telling her child about the importance of always taking the time to look pretty before you walk out of the house.
Imagine the difference in the child
if she was taught the importance of always
trusting and believing in herself
before leaving the house.
We all face those times where we doubt ourselves, our image onto others or just who we are trying to be and grow into.
Everywhere you turn you see images and opinions of what society concludes as beautiful and worthy.
Have you ever really looked at yourself in the mirror?
Looked at who you really are as a person and an individual? Do not just take a glance, what you are wearing, your hair style, the color of your skin or your fake tan. Truly look at YOU. Look at the reflection in the mirror long enough till you see within yourself and than ask yourself who you see.
I know most will role their eyes at this task, but I tell you this. The ones that come up with any reason why they are not going to do it all comes down to the one main and real reason why not?
We are scared to know who we truly are
There is no hype clothing, hair style, look, color, what you drive, where you live or your chosen profession that can put value to your soul.
Stare at yourself in the mirror and just know that you are beautiful just the way you were created. There is no end to your beauty in your eyes and those that cross your path when you start believing in yourself.
Live YOUR life to the fullest.
Live YOUR life for YOU and not others.
Fred sarkari
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Hello Fred,
As you know this is a topic that is close to my heart. I have worked in the fitness industry for 15 years and worked with many men and women with Body Image Distortion. It is believed that if they were only thinner, or more muscular that they would be happier, have a better job, a happier marriage and make more money.
In reality, one is happier, in their job, marriage and with themself when one is confident in WHO they are as a person vs. WHAT they look like on the outside.
Parents who teach their children that appearance is more important than character, integrity, or doing what is right instead of what is easy may be playing a role in a future Body Image Distortion in their children’s future.
PARENTS/TEACHERS PLEASE REMEMBER THIS: If you are not consciously teaching your children the importance of integrity, values, loving themselves, believing in themselves…then by default you are letting the world teach them that how they look and what they wear are the more important things in life.
Thank you for posting this, I hope it will open the eyes of many who are likely unaware of the potential damage of their words.
Thanks Andrea,
This is a topic that is very close to my heart and wish to spread the thought that it is the little moments, thoughts and words that we share with our children that makes them into who they are to become.
Hi Fred
Thanks so much for posting this. Having a child of my own I find it troublesome to see what a great emphasis girls place on looks at such a young age. 10 year old girls (or the Hannah Montana followers as I call them) look like they are sixteen with makeup and mini skirts. Girls end up like this based on what they are taught and what they see on TV. Childhood is something that comes and goes so fast. So instead of forcing our children to “grow up and act your age” I think we have to go back to letting them play at the park and go for bike rides. Junk the make up and the Hannah Montana and go back to the real lesson’s of childhood. Honesty and integrity-acceptance of yourself before all else.
Angela you are so right.
We can’t follow our children everywhere they go, but we definitely can teach them how to love themselves for who they are and not fall for peer-pressure.
Fred – this post should be read by all parents!
Besides the truth of what we can do ourselves to be confident in ourselves it is SO important what parents around do.
If all parents would spend more time telling their kids how great they are and what great they will become lots of coaches could close down their business!
Since I as a swimming coach starting creating positive feedback environments in my clubs coaching have become so much more fun for me and my swimmers. Plus we make much better results.
And now WE talk WE. It is not me as a swimming coach telling the swimmers what to do so THEY can make results. WE are in it together. (next step is to include the parents)
Thank you so much, there aren’t enough posts on this… or at least i cant find them. I am turning into such a blog nut, I just cant get enough and this is such an important topic… i’ll be sure to write something about your site
Thank you for a great reply. Can’t agree more with you about the importance of this topic. Children are not the ones that have the issue in our society – its more so us, the adults, that seem to have majority of the issues that gets rippled into the children.
Happy blogging.
Thank you so much, there aren’t enough posts on this… keep up the good work
Thank you so much, Great information… You keep writing and I’ll keep reading.
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